SOUL FOOD for COLLEGE STUDENTS | REAL TALK ON RELATIONSHIP

As individual - whatever decisions we make for ourselves impacts of all humanity. 

Will impact our family > community > large environment.

When talking about marriage there will be contradiction, example >>  social statues, race, tradition, etc. Yet, what's prioritized is the sense of compatibility -compatibility of term who you're, religion, etc (aligning of visions & purpose).

Asked yourself, for examples, what's actually gonna be valuable for me? What's actually gonna help me?

Marriage & the person you married & the environment you live will impacts our live & our happiness. Because it takes long term. Maybe you're happy now, but then??

The foundation in relationship/marriage is with a spouse.

In relationship/marriage, ALLAH talk about Taqwa.

The one between a husb & a wife/a friend that has been close for many years, in that moment, we oppress the individual the most. 

Know that oppression takes place when 2 people are in close proximity & love one another that we take advantage of them & we abuse their rights.

This may happen because of anger/arrogance/obsessive/lack of vision with financial/not aligning with the most important & fundamental things that apply to us as we live in this world with higher purpose.

The difference thing between Islam & other religion > because as Muslims will recognize that relationship requires DEEP REFLECTION & RECTIFICATION OF SELF & VISIONARY THINKING.

We have been influenced by social media. Marriage isn't what's your fav ice cream, etc. And social media make told what it means to have successful relationship >> this is the problem now.

There's no truly relationship except marriage.

Your spouse is a part of you. They behind you, they in front of you just like 2 people are occupying the exact same space all times). 

That means the individual (your spouse) will look at you and they will see your flaws and the flaws inside of you will really exposed.

We have to prepare our relationship/companionship. In order for us to set ourselves up for a successful friendship/marriage >> we have to look inside of ourselves.

 That individual who knows themselves will then know their Lord. Because if we really scrutinize who we're as people, then we will work on purification of our heart & soul. Only then will achieve our Lord's pleasure & happiness.

But when we are lying to ourselves/ignore ourselves >> we will never be honest to ALLAH.